I’ve been receiving emails from potential adoptive parents (which I absolutely love) asking different questions about the adoption process or our agency or my thoughts on different things. I’d like to compile answers so I have somewhere to point people when they ask, but I’d love to hear exactly what you’d like to know so I don’t leave anything out.
How can I use my experience to best help you?
What specific questions do you have at this point in your journey?
What do you wish you could ask me over coffee?
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Thank you all, and Happy New Year! May 2017 be the year all of our dreams come true.
My Real Kid: life as a transracial adoptive mom 
I don’t have a question, but I would like to say that I really enjoyed reading about your adoption journey. While reading the many adoption blogs and articles available online, I was happy to find one that didn’t mention religion or reference how the wait or the infertility were God’s plan. As someone who is agnostic, I appreciated your story. I related to it better than many of the others for that reason.
Thank you for your comment, Sarah! I remember searching for adoption-related material when I was first considering it and finding only religious references, too. The amount of faith-based adoption agencies was overwhelming, too. I’m glad you could relate to my story and thank you so much for reading. Wishing you the best of luck on your journey this year!
I agree with the above! I get turned off really quick when god’s plan comes into the discussion. I’ve just stumbled onto your blog. We are in the waiting process. We had a match fall thru in May when the young lady changed her mind, and twice this summer we’ve been someone’s second choice. This wait is killing me! Any advice you have for how you dealt with the wait would be appreciated!
Hi Corinne, I’m amazed at how similar our experiences have been. Just weeks after being approved, we matched with a woman who didn’t have any red flags. Unfortunately, she dropped out of contact around the due date. Then we were picked by two young women at the same time. After meeting with both, we chose the woman we connected slightly better with and who we thought was more likely to follow through. Unfortunately, she picked a family who lived closer to her and in the meantime the other young woman had moved on. It’s definitely been a roller coaster of highs, lows and periods of just waiting.
I don’t have much advice for the wait. I go in cycles where I think about things constantly and then where I don’t. When I am constantly thinking about it, I update the registry we created for our first match that fell thru at the last minute and I read success stories and blogs. Good luck!
Hi Saran and Corinne,
Thank you so much for your comments and I’m so sorry to hear about your failed matches. I am a firm believer that that means your child has just not found you yet. Hang in there. I didn’t have a failed match but I did have a wait, as we all do, and I’m working on a post now with tips to keep your sanity during that time. I will share it soon… but my biggest piece of advice would be to try and enjoy this time – do things for yourself because that won’t be happening much once your baby comes! Take a girls trip, take a baby moon–even if it’s just a staycation. Learn something. Volunteer. Be selfish. You will spend the rest of your lives –and the next 18 years especially – focused on your child. He or she will arrive at just the right time… I really believe this is true! In the meantime, you can’t control anything other than how you spend this time. Best of luck to you both!!