Now that we are officially active and waiting to be chosen by a birthmother, we will receive monthly updates telling us how many prospective birthmothers were presented with our profile. We got our first one yesterday. We had no idea what to expect, but over the past month our profile was presented to eight birthmothers. I’m not sure if that’s a good number or not. When I see all of the waiting families on the website, eight birthmothers does not seem like very many. And I’m sure our profile was just one of many sent to these eight women.
Of the eight birthmothers we were presented to, three chose another couple and have been matched, two women fell of the radar, one “screened out” of the process (which I’m assuming means our agency discovered something that made her ineligible), one is in the process of matching with another couple, and three have not chosen a family yet. So, I guess we are still in the running with those three women. And if November is anything like October, we will be shown to a new birthmother every few days this month, too.
I’m not going to lie–we were anxiously awaiting the update and knew that we had not been chosen yet, but it was a little disappointing anyway. Just a little bit… kind of felt like not being picked for the A team in gym class or something.
We have to keep in mind that our profile is not being shown to every birthmother in the program and only to birthmothers who match our criteria. And we are only shown to birthmothers who are looking for a family like ours. I’m not exactly sure how that works, but I imagine birthmothers can specify certain attributes like age, religious/non-religious, pets/no pets, live in a certain area, etc. and then they are only shown profiles of adoptive parents that match those preferences.
Jamie and I are getting more and more eager every day for some baby news, but we know the right birthmother and baby will find us when the time is right.
All we need is just a little patience…